Bring Me Flowers

Good Morning DearHearts,

In a very memorable duet Barbra Streisand and Neil Diamond sang “You don’t bring me flowers anymore.”  If I am remembering correctly it is a song about the seeming end of a special relationship.

Years ago I heard a wonderful piece of advice from Dr. Andrew Weil – buy yourself flowers once a week.

Many wait for a significant occasion or person to bring them flowers. Who is actually more significant in your life than you? Who knows exactly what kind of flower you want better than you?

For many years each Friday when I stopped by the store after work I bought myself flowers.  I placed them in the family room on the corner of the wall unit.  I had to pass that way each time I walked down the hall to the bedroom or on my way back to the kitchen.  The flowers were very significant as a reminder of being loved.  I was loved by the Creator of the flowers. I was loved by the purchaser of the flowers. I still am.

I recently co-facilitated a seminar on the most important relationship any of us will ever have – the one with self.

The relationship we nurture within our own being is the one that will reflect on every other one we have.  If we do not honor, respect and love our own self, then the only connections we have will be ones where we are trying to fill a seemingly empty space within.  This is codependent and it is not in our own best interest.

Those attractive characteristics that we find in someone “out there” really emanate from within our self.  We are actually seeking to find ourself, believing we are lost. So as we realize what we seek is only a reflection of what we are, we can end our attempts to fill a vessel that is already full.

Now, with that realization we can start to appreciate and “date” our beloved self. This is actually a pre-requisite to having a holy relationship with another of God’s Children.  We must embrace our own wholeness before we enter into a relationship with anyone, or we will all too soon find that we have abandoned one of God’s Children for another.

There is a quote from ACIM (A Course in Miracles ) that says,

“You cannot enter into real relationships with any of God’s Sons unless you love them all and equally.”  Text 13 X11:1

This means you must love yourself as much as you believe you love the object of your affection, not more and certainly not less. Eventually we will come to realize that everyone, no matter outward appearances or actions is worthy of our Love.  At that moment, every relationship will become Holy, because no demands will be made or required.

As a postscript to my own flower buying, I stopped bringing flowers home because with three cats in the house it was becoming a recipe for broken vases.  However, I am now buying flowers to keep in my office.  I bring me flowers.

Please Remember Just How Much LOVE is Here For US NOW!!!

In Love, Light and Peace,

Janet Weissman

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